New party, new plans

Last thursday I went to my cousins apartment in Mongkok and she ask me if I can buy her a new Canon camera next month before she will return in our country. I told her that if I have some extra money I'll try to buy her one.

GOOD INTENTIONS ARE NOT ENOUGH

Falling in love is always a magical. It feels eternal, as if love will last forever. We naively believe that somehow we are exempt from the problems our parents had, free from the odds that love will die, assured that it is meant to be and that we are destined to live happily ever after.But as the magic recedes and daily life takes over, it emerges that men continue to expect women to think and react like men, and women expect men to feel and behave like women. Without a clear awareness of our differences, we do not take the time to understand and respect each other. We become demanding, resentful, judgemental and intolerant.With the best and most loving intentions love continues to die. Somehow the problems creep in. The resentments build.

Communication breaks down, mistrust increases. Rejection and repression result. The magic of love is lost.We ask ourselves:
How does it happen?
Why does it happen?
Why does it happen to us?
To answer these questions our greatest minds have developed brilliant and complex philosophical and psychological models. Yet still the old patterns return. Love dies. It happens to almost everyone.

Each day millions of individuals are searching for a partner to experience that special loving feeling. Each year, millions of couples join together in love and then painfully separate because they have lost that loving feeling. From those who are able to sustain love long enough to get married, only 50% stay married. Out of those who stay together, possibly another 50% are not fulfilled. They stay together out of loyalty and obligation or from the fear of starting over.Very few people, indeed, are able to grow in love. Yet, it does happen. When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then has a chance to blossom.Through understanding the hidden differences of the opposite sex we can more successfully give and receive the love that is in our hearts. By validating and accepting our differences, creative solutions can be discovered whereby we can succeed in getting what we want. And, more important, we can learn how to best love and support the people we care about.

LOVE is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.

Men are Like Rubber Bands

Men are like rubber bands. When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the mail intimacy cycle. This cycle involves getting close, pulling away and then getting close again.Most women are surprised to realize that even when a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer. Men instinctively feel this urge to pull away. It is not a decision or choice. It just happens. It is neither his fault nor her fault. It is natural cycle.Women misinterpret a man's pulling away because generally a woman pulls away for different reasons. She pulls back when she doesn't trust him to understan her feelings, when she has been hurt and is afraid of being hurt again, or when he has done something wrong and disappionted her.